From burnt out to badass

I worked in a male dominated field.

Everyday we were lifting 15ft boats over our heads, paddling for miles, and entertaining clients like it was Broadway. My male counterparts didn’t seem to be struggling, and anything they could do, I would prove I could do too.

I learned how to leverage the boats so I could pick them up on my own. I wouldn't ask for help because I didn't need it. I was superwoman. And superwoman doesn't need no manz.

I was existing from this overachiever/ eldest daughter mentality. Always achieving, always successeding. At any cost.

In college I was on Dean’s list, a social justice volunteer, in outdoor club, and working as a wilderness guide. But always thought I could probably do more.

This mentality got me through college with flying colors (okay, the booze and adderall may have helped). But when I got into the “real world”- deadlines, bills, and pressures to pay off my student loans- overwhelmed tf out of me.

I had stopped leaning on pills to give me the extra boost; in fact I was reducing my intake of all substances. And when they weren’t as prevalent in my life, I realized I was burnt the f*ck out. Crispy. Toasted. I needed a whole ass fumigation.

But I didn’t know another way, so I kept pushing. Finding myself in cycles of productive booms, riding a high, just to be level to the floor for a month trying to recalibrate. It wasn’t just my energy levels that were affected. I was bloated, foggy, and emotionally raw. So much so, that my friends were starting to notice.

Then I got hit with a period that changed my life-

debilitating cramps, fatigue, and a serious migraine that resigned me to my bed. This was not usual for me. The severity of these symptoms was insane and I’d never had a migraine before. If you have, you’ll know that I couldn’t watch tv, scroll on my phone, or even open my eyes. It was like I was forced into a multihour meditation from hell. Boy did I have a lot of time to think.

And the post-nut (rather, post-bleed) clarity was unreal.

It was as if the menstrual goddesses had come down and whispered sweet nothings in my ear about how I was misusing my gifts. I wasn’t a man and shouldn’t be acting like it. I had to live differently.

Believe me, as witchy as I am, I was rolling my eyes at cycle synching. Even though I had been loosely tracking my cycle for fertility purposes, I had a hard time admitting that my internal clock ticked differently. It took a lot of deprogramming to accept that I was, in fact, a tocker.

A bit reluctantly, I began to implement cycle synching methods here and there.

I wasn’t fully bought in. But I did seem to notice subtle shifts in my life that felt really good.

I started asking for more help when I was bleeding. Since I wasn’t overextending myself, I had more energy to do the things that I needed to do- like providing education to clients and keeping them safe. Honestly, that in itself was enough.

But then, I had more energy for the things I wanted to do. Traveling, going dancing with friends, creating art. It was like I had unlocked my true super power. I wasn't "playing man" anymore and burning myself out. I was actually doing more, being more, and happier in my life.

When I was ovulating, I would ask for more shifts that week, go out with friends, and still have energy to be spontaneous.

During my luteal and menstrual phase, I was genteler with myself. But that didn't mean laying in bed for two weeks, it meant taking more space for myself when and where I could. Which made the time at work and with friends more enjoyable because I had energy stored up. I wasn't running on fumes.

I was more creative in my follicular phase: writing music, painting, crafting. Things I had previously felt too exhausted to do.

I was all systems go and felt good doing it.

Cycle synching removed the guilt and shame of being a woman.

It helped me to feel more alive in my body and more in tune with the people around me. I was achieving more and feeling happier about it. Saying it changed my life is an understatment.

If you’re feeling off, it’s not you- it’s the system. I created UNPHASED: Cycle Synching Made Simple because I know what it feels like to feel out of sync with yourself. To want to do big things but not have the energy. To start strong and fade fast. To feel frustrated that your body doesn’t “keep up.” You don’t need to push harder—you need to realign. Inside this workshop, we’ll be teaching you everything we wish we knew about cycle synching when we started our journeys: education, herbal support, nutrition guidance, rituals, and community. Because we were never meant to do this alone—or in one linear, masculine-paced direction. We’re cyclical beings. And when we embrace that? Life gets lighter, richer, and way more powerful.